OPERATION SELF-LOVE: ARE YOU IN LOVE WITH YOU?
Dear Queen,
Happy New Year to you! Even though 2020 really dragged a whole lot of us, thankfully, we are still standing strong and tall, crowns intact! We made it!
Given all that we have witnessed in the past year, I am sure we have all come to love and appreciate the very gift of life and to paraphrase a saying by the recently departed angel, Cicely Tyson, “there must be a reason why I’m still here”, that pretty much sums it all up for me; WE ARE STILL HERE FOR A REASON!
You are no longer here to be counted as statistics, we are here to fulfill a purpose, one that’s greater than us! We have a contribution to the World and that is ourselves, through our partners, children and homes. There is so much that has already been deposited in us and even much more we have in us to give but the question is, how much do you give back to you?
You are that powerhouse and love is the only fuel that keeps you going, the problem is that sometimes we are low on energy and we look to external sources for replenishing but it never really gets us anywhere. You are your main source for a refill, no one is able to love you more than you can love yourself.
SELF-LOVE
The practice of Self-Love often sounds selfish or narcissistic but in reality its just being more intentional about your Self. It is paying attention, putting you first, the decision to live rather than exist and making each day count!
This post is not to teach you how to love yourself, primarily because nobody knows you like you know yourself. It is to remind you, that, in order to be the very best version of yourself and to truly love everyone and everything around you, you have to love and BE IN LOVE with yourself.
Love is a vibrant and active energy, it radiates all-around whoever chooses it. It is based off of this radiation that you can then truly begin to receive the external love you desire (we all do), but lets face it, at this point You are practically irresistible and loving you would come naturally, all as a result of you loving yourself first!
So what inspired this write-up, you may be wondering? Well, you see, my Christmas tree hadn’t come down before all the stores started the pink and red decoration signaling that a certain day is approaching where you must show your loved ones that and how much you love them. Ok! maybe that’s a slight exaggeration, but I think we underestimate the pressure we put on chocolates and flowers (Oh! I love them both and you should too) to boost our self esteem or to determine how relevant we are to others. To be honest, Social Media isn’t making any of this better!
Of course, We all want to feel love, appreciation and gratitude especially from those that we practically serve with our whole beings but when considered shouldn’t it be a daily activity? This is not an anti-valentine’s day post, it is in fact a pro-365-valentine’s-days reminder that you can love and show love to yourself daily (the goal is endlessly).
BLACK HISTORY MONTH
The thing I love most about the month of February and the Valentine’s day hype is that it makes us truly think about love, who we love, how we want to show them and the extent we would to show them. The painful part is that, that process often excludes us.
So this February, starting today, start by showing yourself some real hardcore love, spoil yourself, go all out for you…most importantly, never stop doing so!
Loving yourself, also means loving your story, your journey and your reality! It is accepting that those are the unique threads woven to form the masterpiece that you are today. And it is in that spirit, that we celebrate the Black History Month with our Sisters and Brothers on their remarkable journey, contributions and excellence.
This month, at HWHQ, we will continue to focus on Self-Love and different ways you can cater to yourself. Also, we will be taking a look back, loving, learning and drawing inspiration from all Black heritage, hoping to learn lessons that will be relevant today.
I look forward to an incredible year together and hopefully, we can all learn to love ourselves, not just in February, but everyday. That way, the entire World would shine and radiate with all the love and begin to transform, one home at a time!
Love and Light,
Your Partner in Progress,
Bukky O.
